Don't Wanna
May. 18th, 2012 10:00 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
puppetmakerBut first here is a picture of Caroline and her teacher after she received her green belt.
(for the VI: This is Caroline on the left and her teacher on the right. Her teacher is kneeling next to her. They are standing in the school which has red mats on the floor and mirrors behind them. Caroline is wearing black pants and shirt. She has her orange belt across her shoulders and her brand new green belt around her waist. Her teacher is wearing a black shirt and black pants as well.)
Don't Wanna is a phrase that parents hear from their children and everybody hears in their heads when something comes up that is not what they wanted to do.
Yesterday I read several articles on several different topics that led me to thinking about the phrase “don’t wanna” and my internal little voice that says it before my other more responsible voice reminds me of why I have to do whatever it is.
One article in the Wall Street Journal, and I apologies for not giving credit to the blog I read about it in, talked about a new form of therapy where the therapist uses tough love, well therapy, and doesn’t let their client continue to whine on a topic that they seem stuck on. The idea is to get the client to either figure out a solution or just let the subject go. Solve it or forget about talking about it because you are going rapidly nowhere on it. This sort of whining is more an attention getter than really wanting a solution to the problem at hand.
The other term that was used is chronic complaining. We also know or knew someone who does or did that. I will add to that the chronic drama seeker. There are some people who do have the worst luck in the world and things do happen in sequence that prove to us that they have the worst luck in the world. However there are some that seek the drama. They make choices conscious or unconscious in their lives that lead to drama. They thrive on it and the attention it brings. It makes them feel better about their lives.
I will admit to occasionally letting the “don’t wanna” voice win. But for the most part I manage to be an adult about it and deal with whatever comes along that I really would prefer not to deal with. I know that if I don’t deal with it, it is not going to get done. Like exercise, I get ready to go to the gym and my inner voice is giving me all these other things I think I should be doing or would rather do. Sometime, I am sorry to say, it wins and I don’t go but I am getting better at taking some time for myself and exercising. I have learned that I feel better after I workout. Today I am taking Caroline to the Y for family swim. I know when the time period that I can take her is and how long it is. So I plan that into my day. I keep myself honest by telling Caroline that we are doing this and this way I can’t back out unless something else really does take precedent.
There are times that I don’t wanna deal with our cats. But they trust me to take care of them and their needs. So I make sure they have food and water and clean litter. I clean up after them and make sure they get pets and scritches.
Another article brought to my attention by my father is about blogging entitled “Blogging is not at Thing, but an Attitude” by Jim Dalrymple. It was more about the idea of media companies trying to create blogs and content and not understanding why people don’t like/read them. He talks about the flow of a blog and the readership being able to tell authentic from serious scripted. Which makes sense to me. I really just write here what I want to write or what is on my mind. I started my web log so that my parents, siblings, and friends could keep up with what was going on in my life and it sort of evolved from there. Also since I recently had a Kung-Fu class which was all about getting things to flow, it hit a point of resonance with me. I am still working on the first form as my classmates are way ahead of me which is frustrating but something that I want to work on except when I don’t wanna.
Right now I have a list of things that need to be done and I really should go do them but it is such a lovely morning I think I am going to take a little time for me before tackling them. So that I can send my don’t wanna voice on vacation for the rest of the day by reminding it that I gave it a break this morning.
I am grateful to my parents for teaching me that there are things you have to do even though you don’t wanna.
(for the VI: This is Caroline on the left and her teacher on the right. Her teacher is kneeling next to her. They are standing in the school which has red mats on the floor and mirrors behind them. Caroline is wearing black pants and shirt. She has her orange belt across her shoulders and her brand new green belt around her waist. Her teacher is wearing a black shirt and black pants as well.)
Don't Wanna is a phrase that parents hear from their children and everybody hears in their heads when something comes up that is not what they wanted to do.
Yesterday I read several articles on several different topics that led me to thinking about the phrase “don’t wanna” and my internal little voice that says it before my other more responsible voice reminds me of why I have to do whatever it is.
One article in the Wall Street Journal, and I apologies for not giving credit to the blog I read about it in, talked about a new form of therapy where the therapist uses tough love, well therapy, and doesn’t let their client continue to whine on a topic that they seem stuck on. The idea is to get the client to either figure out a solution or just let the subject go. Solve it or forget about talking about it because you are going rapidly nowhere on it. This sort of whining is more an attention getter than really wanting a solution to the problem at hand.
The other term that was used is chronic complaining. We also know or knew someone who does or did that. I will add to that the chronic drama seeker. There are some people who do have the worst luck in the world and things do happen in sequence that prove to us that they have the worst luck in the world. However there are some that seek the drama. They make choices conscious or unconscious in their lives that lead to drama. They thrive on it and the attention it brings. It makes them feel better about their lives.
I will admit to occasionally letting the “don’t wanna” voice win. But for the most part I manage to be an adult about it and deal with whatever comes along that I really would prefer not to deal with. I know that if I don’t deal with it, it is not going to get done. Like exercise, I get ready to go to the gym and my inner voice is giving me all these other things I think I should be doing or would rather do. Sometime, I am sorry to say, it wins and I don’t go but I am getting better at taking some time for myself and exercising. I have learned that I feel better after I workout. Today I am taking Caroline to the Y for family swim. I know when the time period that I can take her is and how long it is. So I plan that into my day. I keep myself honest by telling Caroline that we are doing this and this way I can’t back out unless something else really does take precedent.
There are times that I don’t wanna deal with our cats. But they trust me to take care of them and their needs. So I make sure they have food and water and clean litter. I clean up after them and make sure they get pets and scritches.
Another article brought to my attention by my father is about blogging entitled “Blogging is not at Thing, but an Attitude” by Jim Dalrymple. It was more about the idea of media companies trying to create blogs and content and not understanding why people don’t like/read them. He talks about the flow of a blog and the readership being able to tell authentic from serious scripted. Which makes sense to me. I really just write here what I want to write or what is on my mind. I started my web log so that my parents, siblings, and friends could keep up with what was going on in my life and it sort of evolved from there. Also since I recently had a Kung-Fu class which was all about getting things to flow, it hit a point of resonance with me. I am still working on the first form as my classmates are way ahead of me which is frustrating but something that I want to work on except when I don’t wanna.
Right now I have a list of things that need to be done and I really should go do them but it is such a lovely morning I think I am going to take a little time for me before tackling them. So that I can send my don’t wanna voice on vacation for the rest of the day by reminding it that I gave it a break this morning.
I am grateful to my parents for teaching me that there are things you have to do even though you don’t wanna.
