It Will Get Better

[puppetmaker]

There is a group online called The Trevor Project and considering the rash of teen suicides that have been in the news, this group is trying to get their message out to the teen youth of America. This group is aimed at the LGBTQ youth but they will help anyone that needs someone to listen to them without judgment. Recently they have produced a number of videos with various people, some famous and some not, talking about that it will get better. Tim Gunn even produced a video for them that revealed some rather personal things about him. The message is that, “Yes, we know that it seems like these feelings will last forever and that there is no way out. Just know that it will get better.”

I have talked before about my depression that I suffered from off and on for years. I don’t think I have said that at one point I tried to off myself. I didn’t see it getting any better so I tried to get out of the game. I didn’t succeed and through the help of friends and family, I made it through that dark time and came out on the other side a better and stronger person.

And I want to say to all of you, It Does Get Better. I could never imagine the life I have now back then. If I had succeeded back then, I wouldn’t have done most of the fun things I have done in my life. I wouldn’t have the good friends I have now. Caroline wouldn’t exist. Peter would never have met me. I thought my life was over when it was only beginning.

Teen and young adult suicide is sad for so many reasons including the fact that these young lives were cut off before they really had a chance to live and be the people they would become.

So it will get better. I honestly know it doesn’t seem so right now, but it does. Take heart in the fact that this person on the Internet is cheering you on and in your corner.

I am so very grateful that I didn’t succeed.

Comments

[readinggeek451]

*hugs*

I'm grateful that you didn't succeed, too.

[popfiend.livejournal.com]

Echoes.

[nekosensei.livejournal.com]

Me three!

[ghilledhu.livejournal.com]

Depression is a killer, literally.

I am so very grateful that I didn't succeed.

Me too, a thousand times.

[cielamara.livejournal.com]

Oh, Kath. I'm so glad you didn't succeed. *hug*

[chris-walsh.livejournal.com]

Bless you for having the courage to admit that.

I'm glad you're still here.

[oceandezignz.livejournal.com]

Well I'm glad to know you didn't succeed either ♥

Me? I wasn't exactly depressed, just severely teased, made fun of cruelly (I went from a B to a DD in a freak growth spurt over a Christmas holiday, was accused of implants. At age 13!), made the scapegoat of a lot of shit I've never done (stealing teachers supplies, purses, boyfriends...)... it didn't really end til I got out of high school.

I have considered suicide in the past, but then I snapped out of it. The way I see it, killing oneself is kind of like letting those who've hurt you win. They succeeded breaking you. They WANTED that. Sure, they most likely didn't want to see you dead (as then that would equal more trouble for them, as if often does these days with bullies being put to trial), but they wanted to see your spirit broken. Its the power of turning a human into a helpless mush that fuels some of the cruelest people in the world.

Obviously, as you've seen in what little work I can do at A_B, I'm... just a bit TOO spirited.

I just wish, that these kids, these poor kids who are so close to being broken would look inside for their spirit, no matter how beaten it is and go 'this too will pass'. Because it DOES.

I have people who hurt me back then call me a friend. I don't treat them like I do a true friend, but I certainly treat them better than they did me. A few of them have acknowledged this, even apologized for their actions back then.

If that can occur with me, it'll happen to anyone in various ways. They just need to see beyond the hurt of 'now' to see the freedom of the 'future'. Instead of cutting their now short and killing their future forever.

[ghilledhu.livejournal.com]

I have people who hurt me back then call me a friend.

Recently, at my 20th high school reunion, one of the girls who used to bully me mercilessly came up to me and apologized. She's a teacher now, and she said seeing kids pick on each other made her realize how badly she and her friends used to hurt me.

It was a very touching and very powerful moment.

[artnouveauho.livejournal.com]

I too am glad that you're still here.

[dungeonwriter.livejournal.com]

Hugs, your message to me in one of my lowest moments got me through it. Reading it in the hospital got me through so much sadness.

I'm so grateful to you and thank God you survived.

I hope many people read your message!

[ladytalker13.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad that God was with you and provided you with the family and friends you needed to survive.

As a teenager in a totally nightmare home, there were a few times I thought about ending it... one of the moms I babysat for told me that as bad as it was, it would not last forever - in a couple of years I would be an adult and I could make my own life.

She was right.

I'll pray for the kids out there who need help, that someone reaches out to them.

[edith-jones.livejournal.com]

I'm very glad that you didn't succeed.

I'm very glad also that I didn't succeed in August. And I'm deeply saddened that one of my son's best friends hung himself two weeks ago; he did succeed, which is such a damned shame. He was 17.

Thanks for posting this. It came at a good time for me, which of course is what you were aiming for....!!