LI Idol Season 6 Week 13 Pick a Topic
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I went into my daughter’s backpack to get her folder where the teacher puts her homework and any notes or papers that the teacher wants me to see. In there I found the usual graded papers, flyers for the next PTA meeting, a notice that the band will be selling flowers for Valentine’s Day, and a sheet informing me that a new sexual offender had moved into the neighborhood and I could go to the usual site and find out more if I care to.
I go to the site and look up the latest information about sex offenders in my area. We tend to have a few more than other areas because we have a couple of half-way houses for various forms of addiction in the neighborhood. This individual was a little closer than that since they were staying with a family that I have a nodding aquaintance with.
Something was tickling at the back of my mind. So I called the local gossip, I mean the head of the local watch, and asked her if she had seen J. She said that J has returned to his parents house about two weeks ago. He had picked up a job at a garage and was getting ready to marry his girlfriend with whom he had a little boy. It all made sense to me. J had gotten arrested and convicted of child molestation and a few other charges. His crime was that the week of his 18th birthday, he had unprotected sex with his 16 year-old girlfriend (almost 17) and got her pregnant. And the DA decided to make an example of him figuring, correctly, that this kid didn’t have the money to lawyer-up. So J now has to register each and every time he moves as a convicted child molester.
A 14 year old girl sends a sexy photo of herself to her 14 year old boyfriend. The kids even have a term for it, sexting. Now three teen are arrested and waiting trial for distributing Child Pornography which was the photograph that the teen took. The way the law is set up now, all three, if convicted, would have Class C felonies and have to register at sex offenders for the rest of their lives. These kids are 13, 14, and 15. This is happening all over the US and kids are being convicted because the law doesn’t allow for anything else.
I think these kids need help in understanding boundaries and why what they did was oh so wrong, but I don’t think any of these kids are child pornographers or will become such. They see it in the media that they absorb. They see it in the ads that claim to be advertising to adults but we know kids see them. The reality shows that tout sexy like Big Brother or the Bachelor (which I swear has more kissing and feeling up than any edition before) or any of the housewives shows on Bravo. They watch people vie to be the next top model while showing quite a bit of skin and this is during the 8 o’clock hour to boot.
I am not suggesting that the networks tone it down but I am suggesting that the parents get more involved in talking to their kids about what they are seeing all around them. We’ve all been teenagers and we have all felt those raging hormones coursing through our bodies causing all kinds of thoughts and feelings. Feeding them mix messages isn’t going to help them at all. I also think that the laws as they stand need to be changed to take into account the ages of the offenders and the offenses. There are people that we need to be informed that they are in our area but people like J are harmless hormone driven teens who now have to tell the world that they are something that they really aren’t. The wedding is set for June and I think that J and his girlfriend are going to be a great couple as they are both great parents to their little boy.
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I go to the site and look up the latest information about sex offenders in my area. We tend to have a few more than other areas because we have a couple of half-way houses for various forms of addiction in the neighborhood. This individual was a little closer than that since they were staying with a family that I have a nodding aquaintance with.
Something was tickling at the back of my mind. So I called the local gossip, I mean the head of the local watch, and asked her if she had seen J. She said that J has returned to his parents house about two weeks ago. He had picked up a job at a garage and was getting ready to marry his girlfriend with whom he had a little boy. It all made sense to me. J had gotten arrested and convicted of child molestation and a few other charges. His crime was that the week of his 18th birthday, he had unprotected sex with his 16 year-old girlfriend (almost 17) and got her pregnant. And the DA decided to make an example of him figuring, correctly, that this kid didn’t have the money to lawyer-up. So J now has to register each and every time he moves as a convicted child molester.
A 14 year old girl sends a sexy photo of herself to her 14 year old boyfriend. The kids even have a term for it, sexting. Now three teen are arrested and waiting trial for distributing Child Pornography which was the photograph that the teen took. The way the law is set up now, all three, if convicted, would have Class C felonies and have to register at sex offenders for the rest of their lives. These kids are 13, 14, and 15. This is happening all over the US and kids are being convicted because the law doesn’t allow for anything else.
I think these kids need help in understanding boundaries and why what they did was oh so wrong, but I don’t think any of these kids are child pornographers or will become such. They see it in the media that they absorb. They see it in the ads that claim to be advertising to adults but we know kids see them. The reality shows that tout sexy like Big Brother or the Bachelor (which I swear has more kissing and feeling up than any edition before) or any of the housewives shows on Bravo. They watch people vie to be the next top model while showing quite a bit of skin and this is during the 8 o’clock hour to boot.
I am not suggesting that the networks tone it down but I am suggesting that the parents get more involved in talking to their kids about what they are seeing all around them. We’ve all been teenagers and we have all felt those raging hormones coursing through our bodies causing all kinds of thoughts and feelings. Feeding them mix messages isn’t going to help them at all. I also think that the laws as they stand need to be changed to take into account the ages of the offenders and the offenses. There are people that we need to be informed that they are in our area but people like J are harmless hormone driven teens who now have to tell the world that they are something that they really aren’t. The wedding is set for June and I think that J and his girlfriend are going to be a great couple as they are both great parents to their little boy.
This has been my entry for this weeks Lj Idol contest. My partner is
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Date: 2010-02-08 05:54 pm (UTC)no subject
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Wendy McElroy has been documenting examples of this kind of prosecutorial misconduct at http://www.wendymcelroy.com and at http://www.ifeminism.net
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Date: 2010-02-08 10:32 pm (UTC)The problem is that even if the law does change, it doesn't change for him.
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Date: 2010-02-08 10:18 pm (UTC)His crime? Statutory rape. As an 18-year-old. Of his 17-year-old consenting girlfriend.
Who has been his wife ever since.
Thank you for writing about this subject. I think it's the side of the law that not enough people think about.
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Date: 2010-02-09 04:42 am (UTC)And while I whole-heartedly want to make life difficult for actual rapists/child pornographers/anyone that uses physical or emotional power to force sex, I think that the zero tolerance of the country on any of these charges is going too far in cases like these. "Making an example" of someone who wasn't doing more than any teen through out the ages has done is just ruining the life of someone and won't change the libidos of 16 and 18 year olds.
Excellent writing, my friend.
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Date: 2010-02-10 09:42 am (UTC)Anyhow, as I said at the top, 100% agreed.
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