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Mothers and Daughters
Dec. 29th, 2016 11:17 amWhen I first heard about Carrie Fisher’s passing, my thoughts went to her mother Debbie Reynolds and her daughter Billie Lourd. Then yesterday we heard about the passing of Debbie Reynolds and my thoughts went to Billie Lourd who lost her mother and her grandmother in the space of about 48 hours. My sympathies to her and her family and friends at these very trying times in their lives.
Mothers and daughters have a unique relationship. It is hard to describe but there is just something there even if they don’t get along particularly well.
I am very lucky that I have a close relationship with my mother and my daughter. Having a daughter of my own, gave me a better idea what my mother had to deal with raising me. I find myself doing things that I swore as a child I would never do to my daughter only to discover after having one that what my mother did was best for me and what I am doing is best for my daughter.
We do the best we can as mothers and hope that we are doing the right thing.
I know my child. I know what limits she has and what limits I have to set on her to keep her safe. My limits are not other parents’ limits but then again my child’s experience is not their child’s experience.
I try to give her as much freedom as possible but within certain parameters. This way if something does go wrong, I have ways of helping her. It is one of the reasons that she got a cell phone. Well that and the teachers in her school assume that everyone has cell phones and send out text to remind about homework and other projects.
My mother did the same thing for me without the cell phone. I use to walk quite a distance to go to my friend’s house but she trusted me to get there and back within the time frame that she gave me. As I was older, she allowed me to go places with my friends who could drive, but she knew them and their families and trusted them to get me there and safely back. I am not to that point with Caroline but it will be happening soon.
I try to be the best mom I can be for my daughter, as I know my mother tried to be the best for me.
I love you Mom.
I love you Caroline.
I am grateful that I have both my Mom and Caroline in my life.
Mothers and daughters have a unique relationship. It is hard to describe but there is just something there even if they don’t get along particularly well.
I am very lucky that I have a close relationship with my mother and my daughter. Having a daughter of my own, gave me a better idea what my mother had to deal with raising me. I find myself doing things that I swore as a child I would never do to my daughter only to discover after having one that what my mother did was best for me and what I am doing is best for my daughter.
We do the best we can as mothers and hope that we are doing the right thing.
I know my child. I know what limits she has and what limits I have to set on her to keep her safe. My limits are not other parents’ limits but then again my child’s experience is not their child’s experience.
I try to give her as much freedom as possible but within certain parameters. This way if something does go wrong, I have ways of helping her. It is one of the reasons that she got a cell phone. Well that and the teachers in her school assume that everyone has cell phones and send out text to remind about homework and other projects.
My mother did the same thing for me without the cell phone. I use to walk quite a distance to go to my friend’s house but she trusted me to get there and back within the time frame that she gave me. As I was older, she allowed me to go places with my friends who could drive, but she knew them and their families and trusted them to get me there and safely back. I am not to that point with Caroline but it will be happening soon.
I try to be the best mom I can be for my daughter, as I know my mother tried to be the best for me.
I love you Mom.
I love you Caroline.
I am grateful that I have both my Mom and Caroline in my life.
